So…after a string of unsuccessful dates, I find myself pondering
over the reasons why they didn't work out. Going on dates with people can be
like an awkward interview, especially when you are a part of the world of
online dating.
Example:
1.
Someone looks at your profile like they look at
your CV
2.
They phone you up and ask you questions – they e-mail
you and ask you questions
3.
You arrange an interview date – you arrange a
date
4.
Maybe you get into the second round – maybe your
get to a second date
5.
You wait for a call/message saying whether you
have been unsuccessful or successful
Truth is, when a date doesn't work out it’s
easy to say things like; ‘they must have been intimidated by my job, qualifications or personality’.
When the reality the likely reason a date doesn't become successful is because
they wasn’t enough chemistry, the person flaked out, there were other deeper
issues that were not discussed.
A small fortune has been made through
people publishing self-help books on love and dating. When in reality if we
stopped over analysing the situation we would probably discover our answer…’his
just not that into you’, ‘she didn’t apprentice the fact that you wanted to
start a cult’ or ‘you came across as
being a bit up yourself’.
The whole situation reminds me of a trip I
once made to the doctor. I had to go on some medication and I asked the doctor
whether it would affect my appetite. The doctor told me “if it makes you want
to eat more, just don’t put the food in your mouth”. Now some people would
think that the doctor was being rude, but I appreciate the basic facts. You don’t
need to meditate to weight loss CD, you don’t need to read every book that has
ever been published about dating trying to discover the reason he didn’t call
you back.
I am the kind of person that needs people
to speak Layman’s terms. I don’t own a crystal ball, plus I’m superstitious so
I don’t mess with anything like that.
Nothing is wrong with the truth. Honesty is
an art. It takes someone who is tactful, brave and reflective to say it!
