‘Not my circus, not my monkeys’ is a famous Polish Proverb
that a good friend once told me.
Some say that not all who wander are lost; I believe that
statement to be true. I remember many occasions after my breakup being the only
girl at the BBQ that didn't have a boyfriend and that lived at home. I had felt
like a gypsy, gathering up my belongings and moving back home (never quite
feeling settled). What had happened to my dream of a house with a white picket
fence?
Furthermore like a travelling one man band, my ex would
after chase after me every couple of weeks with pleas and long winded stories
of how he had changed. I would visualise his words as if they were candy floss,
because like candy floss his promises would at first appear solid and sweet
then dissolve into thin air.
I had left the circus and the repetitive cycle of lies,
manipulation and fantasy. I had moved out of our modern show room apartment with
its colour coordinated insides and instead I had chosen a life that was mine,
where I was free.
I was no longer obliged to believe him anymore or feel sorry
for him for that matter.
It wasn't easy; of course there were times when I wanted to
return, but something kept me moving. I believed that I deserved better.
Reflecting on my past has made me come to
realise that we have two trails of thought that guide us through making
decisions. One trail of thought is emotional. When we are emotional we take
risks, show our passion and often speak without caution. The other trail of thought
is logical. When we try to use a sense of logic when making decisions, we
reflect, calculate and weigh up the situation.
When I decided not to return to my ex, it was a logical
decision and one that would define my future.
Upon breaking out of the circus, I came to realise the
importance of making logical decisions and not just living life through my emotions.
I remember feeling enslaved by my ex's every
word, waiting for him to break out of one of his moods or longing for his
praise. I was there for him, not for me. Love no longer kept me there, only the
illusion of security.
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